I have been in my current job for a year now. I love the work and the company, however lately I find myself getting upset easily in the office and losing emotion, often in situations where it is not professional to do so. The environment is predominantly male orientated and losing this control is not improving my collegues perception of my abilities.
When in a situation where I have to state my opinion or deliver constructive feedback I crumble in a blubbering mess.
Have you any suggestions as to how I can overcome this/how other women in similar situations have coped?
It sounds like you are describing a form of ‘performance anxiety’ or more specifically a ‘public speaking anxiety’. It is not so severe that it is seriously affecting your life, but it is affecting your work. You are also worried about being judged or evaluated by others at work. It is a common problem for both men and women. It may pass on its own as you become more confident in your new job.
There are certainly some treatments that could really benefit you. I would see your GP about being referred to a psychologist for CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy). This can help you learn new skills to cope with certain situations in the future that you have struggled with in the past. You can also read about CBT and train yourself by using self-help books and computer programs.
Answered by Dr Emmajane Down.
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